70th Year

First-to-go advice for couples: what’s your preference?

July 16, 2018

The setting: I am in the Manhattan office of a colleague I much admire for his leadership and stellar career, and we are having a rich conversation on aging, aging men in particular. He tells me a story of his friend who lost his wife of many years, and then suffered deeply and for an […]

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Stay Happy, Stay Restless

June 21, 2018

The body will become restless until the soul paints all its beauty on the sky ~Rumi   Do not go gentle… Rage, rage against the dying of the light. ~Dylan Thomas   You don’t have to take Dylan Thomas’s advice exactly, and on your 70th b-day rage against the night. But you have my permission […]

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The Two-Levels of the Growth Journey of Later Life: how our learning speeds up

June 4, 2018

Later Life years are not a time to keep our life-long learning process going. It is a time to accelerate it. We speed up our learning as we age, not because we make it happen so much, but by allowing a new kind of learning to happen. We do this on two levels or planes: the outer and the […]

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The Graceful Final Good-bye: actuarial realities

April 26, 2018

But at my back, I always hear Time’s winged chariot hurrying near   Andrew Marvell My colleague and master coach and teacher Doug Silsbee is dying. He has a blog on these last months of life that he is creating with wife Walker. Doug had many many like me, proud to call him colleague, teacher, friend. […]

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Two Strategies for Positive Aging: Hold On and Let Go

March 13, 2018

There are always two opposite truths to embody, two polar ideas to integrate. Life would be so-o-o much simpler if only one side of the spectrum were true. We have to be just and merciful, powerful and gentle. As we ripen and mature, we have to hold on and let go at the same time. […]

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