70th Year

Emergence: wisdom shows up through the crucible moments

July 30, 2018

Aging is an activity you do, not something that happens to you. ~Thomas Moore The wisdom that comes with our later years does not just show up. It was forged, if we paid attention to our experiences, in our contact with life, especially when we had staying power as things were going wrong, against our wills […]

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First-to-go advice for couples: what’s your preference?

July 16, 2018

The setting: I am in the Manhattan office of a colleague I much admire for his leadership and stellar career, and we are having a rich conversation on aging, aging men in particular. He tells me a story of his friend who lost his wife of many years, and then suffered deeply and for an […]

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Stay Happy, Stay Restless

June 21, 2018

The body will become restless until the soul paints all its beauty on the sky ~Rumi   Do not go gentle… Rage, rage against the dying of the light. ~Dylan Thomas   You don’t have to take Dylan Thomas’s advice exactly, and on your 70th b-day rage against the night. But you have my permission […]

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The Two-Levels of the Growth Journey of Later Life: how our learning speeds up

June 4, 2018

Later Life years are not a time to keep our life-long learning process going. It is a time to accelerate it. We speed up our learning as we age, not because we make it happen so much, but by allowing a new kind of learning to happen. We do this on two levels or planes: the outer and the […]

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The Graceful Final Good-bye: actuarial realities

April 26, 2018

But at my back, I always hear Time’s winged chariot hurrying near   Andrew Marvell My colleague and master coach and teacher Doug Silsbee is dying. He has a blog on these last months of life that he is creating with wife Walker. Doug had many many like me, proud to call him colleague, teacher, friend. […]

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