…for the 10,000 boomers every day who turn 65

apple and tree photo illustrationI am with the crowd that does not make resolutions. I’d rather reflect and trust that I have ample momentum stemming from my values and goals, and that I will flow, more or less, into this no-longer-new year of 2015.

The aging process is an endurance contest for body and spirit. The body will eventually lose, but the spirit can keep winning. There are plenty of things we can do for our bodies, some wiser than others. Joan Rivers said that she had so much plastic surgery that when she died she’d donate her body to Tupperware. That is one response.

I recently noticed the body factor when I put on some still-in-very-good-shape dress pants, still new-looking from the lack of wear. I noticed they were baggy and uber-pleated like those of all men of any age some years ago. But mine were also too long. My reaction was: “Shoo—oot!! Why are they flopping around on my shoe and almost to the floor in the heel?” Simple explanation. I weigh the same as I used to. But I’ve shrunk a little bit. I’m about an inch shorter than I used to be at my 6-foot peak. What a bummer that is!! This is an unwanted reminder that my body is in these slowly fading years.

So how do I think about this? I feel vital. I have dreams and hopes about what I want to do with work and life. But knock knock—there’s a little tap at the door that reminds me often enough that I am physically on the decline.

So the good news here is on the spiritual/emotional side. Wisdom and my internal life are the gifts this age brings, not a bad trade-off for baggy pants, thinning hair, and character-expressive wrinkles. It would be nice to have both youth and wisdom. But I can keep on moving ahead without trying to freeze my body in time like our culture seems obsessed with. It is not like I am without health at all—I am playing tennis and biking and gardening. And thank God I can say I am pain free, a luxury you don’t know you have until you have to live with pain.

I will continue appreciating the life of the body and the spirit, and the inner life of meaning and perspective may be the most important part, always and very much at this stage. I will also hem my pants, and get some new ones.


Are Boomers Tired of Retirement?

by evoker on September 25, 2014

in Self development

phD RetirementI have trained several hundred people in the past few years in the work of retirement planning.

Many have been very ready to move ahead and enjoy or endure their last months of work. They were ready to plunge into this less-career-identified space we still most often call retirement. Others were somewhat ready and knew they had work to do unless they wanted to be totally surprised by leaving their career. And still others were woefully unprepared, and did not even know they were.

Continue reading this article, Getting Your Ph.D. in Retirement, at my blog on the Psychology Today website.


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Some teachers of human awareness start with the language we used a long time ago, before we knew what a synapse or neuro-science was. One of our great teachers, with one foot in modern anthropology but with her heart in the wisdom traditions, needs to be better known.  I invite you to learn more about […]

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Listen to this Wellness By Design Interview

February 17, 2014

Click “play” below to listen to the February 12, 2014 episode of Wellness By Design, a regular BlogTalkRadio program by Sarah Harris. In this episode, Sarah talks with me about the Power of Your Past. More Health Podcasts at Blog Talk Radio with Wellness By Design on BlogTalkRadio

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Sharing the energy matrix

January 7, 2014

Coaches and therapists work in the same two energy fields—the first, those cognitive places where we think, and the second, the those pre-verbal, old brain places from which our core energy emerges. Coaches and therapists have different terms and ways of working with these inner energy fields as we interact in the world of work, […]

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