depthpresidentialelectionAs we witness the United States’ process for selecting its next leader, we’re struck by the over-coverage, and at the same time fascinated by the endless character analysis of the candidates. Among other things, we look for who is the wisest of them all, not the brashest or the coolest or the best debater, even. It is wisdom we most want and need.
The world of coaching, with its endless angles on self-reflection, promotes wisdom within each of us. Let’s hope our candidates do enough self-reflection, the kind not just stimulated by the polls.

I am making my attempt to add some wisdom to coaching through an offer I am calling Depth Coaching (with permission from Pat Adson whose book is of the same title.) Here is a link to a webinar I am doing on wisdom-based coaching for International Coach Federation (ICF) New York chapter, February 3, 2016.

Depth Coaching: Co-creating Action-based Wisdom with Our Clients

Maybe see you there.



Year-end ‘Ingathering’

by evoker on November 29, 2015

in Past and memory,Self development

ingatheringThe Holiday breather is upon us. Not a breather entirely of course, as we will run around a lot trying to make it all happen again. Still, this time of year we often notice the difference in the air and in ourselves. We slow down and look back at our year, and we give thanks and wonder and assess how we really did through it all.

One author I like, Kathy Dowling Singh, writes about the “ingathering” we do at the end of our lives when we ready for death. We are not dying at this time of year, at least not most of us, but we are letting go of the year that is dying. If it has been a tough one we say good riddance, but for most we have parts we savor. The ingathering is a psychological process of taking in our impressions and memories and seeing what stands out to take forward as guidelines, along with the memories and images to anchor us.

We have spent the last 10 months extending ourselves, deploying parts of who we are into our roles and duties. Now we get to make our own acquaintance again. This ingathering, when done well, will have at least some, and sometimes a lot, of grace mixed into it. It will fill us up with a sense of newness and plentitude so we can move into the new year.

Anne Lamott says this about grace.  “I do not understand the mystery of grace—only that it meets us where we are and does not leave us where it left us.”

May you find yourself in a new place by January 1, 2016.


Frederic Hudson: The Man Who Lived and Breathed Adult Learning

June 10, 2015

Self Renewal for all of Life’s Stages from one of the progenitors of the field of coaching (I have one more post coming on this, my comments at his memorial…they will come some day. And if you want to see one more angle on his life I posted something recently on Psychology Today about him.) […]

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Are Boomers Tired of Retirement?

September 25, 2014

I have trained several hundred people in the past few years in the work of retirement planning. Many have been very ready to move ahead and enjoy or endure their last months of work. They were ready to plunge into this less-career-identified space we still most often call retirement. Others were somewhat ready and knew […]

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A Bridge to Our Better Pasts

June 3, 2014

Some teachers of human awareness start with the language we used a long time ago, before we knew what a synapse or neuro-science was. One of our great teachers, with one foot in modern anthropology but with her heart in the wisdom traditions, needs to be better known.  I invite you to learn more about […]

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