Coaching and mentoring

Mentor or Tormentor

November 27, 2012

The leaders I have been around fall into 3 categories…mentors, nice but neutral, and tormentors. Real mentoring is a high bar: an unwavering faith in people mixed with toughness and wisdom. It is the only real place to shoot for. Tormentors have their own skills: ego-centric and playing a power game they think they understand [...]

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Two Quick Thoughts…

August 13, 2012

Two quick thoughts dear friends, Here is a link to a blog I think is worth your following: Meta-Reflections. Dan Pesut is a leaders’ leader in healthcare. He happens to mention my books in this post, the impetus for me linking with him, permanently, but I look forward to whatever he has to say. He [...]

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Holiday Efficiency: In praise of Dumb processes over SMART goals

December 9, 2011

We are all taught to use, and teach others, to set SMART goals. This busy time of year, we are “making a list, checking it twice.” So much to do, so little mistletoe. But maybe you need some dumb goals to balance out and enrich your holidays. This SMART acronym, one of the more universally [...]

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Witnessing as a coach, parent, or spouse

March 7, 2011

Part of long-term love is being present to others’ lives. We participate directly in our partners’ and grandkids’ and clients’ lives to some degree, but more than anything, our most important role may be to act as a witness to them. We observe from close up with high intention and care. When we witness, we [...]

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