Coaches empower the smaller systems we so need: Frederic Hudson speaks

November 6, 2019

Re-reading The Adult Years by Frederic Hudson, co-founder of the Hudson Institute of Coaching, I was struck by how prescient it was (much of it could be written today) and how accurately it describes the tasks and the dilemmas of adults constructing meaningful lives in times of change (he was onto this 30 years before […]

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The 3 P’s of Wisdom: polarity, paradox and poetry

June 7, 2019

Evidence-based thinking needs its opposite sibling What wretchedness: to believe in only what can be proven.  Mary Oliver The test of a first-rate intelligence is the ability to hold two opposed ideas in the mind at the same time, and still retain the ability to function.  F. Scott Fitzgerald.  Wisdom is discernment in action. It […]

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Pay attention, Find the Joy, Tell About It

February 13, 2019

Mary Oliver tribute Last month we lost one of the great poets of our time. Mary Oliver has seeped into the culture with lines like “your one wild and precious life”. She took her leave of the physical plane at age 84. Prolific, profound, much celebrated, she was rooted almost always in nature first. What […]

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Decades-long friendships: the wine of intimacy

October 31, 2018

One of the oft-cited advantages of being in later life is an abundance of friends and relationships, forming themselves into satisfying constellations, that add so much to the quality of life. The opposite, isolation, is a scourge of aging for some who are shut in or endure tough circumstances, so the very relationship riches for […]

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#19 Avoiding the anti-aging mind games: embracing aging while not succumbing to it

October 22, 2018

The negative aging imagination is at play in the culture. When we develop “reflexive dread” of aging, a phrase from Ashton Applewhite, we dread and revile the thought of getting older in any way. This dread is a reaction to an aging meta messages our culture indulges in aplenty—“whatever you do, don’t start aging!! It’s […]

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