#19 Avoiding the anti-aging mind games: embracing aging while not succumbing to it

October 22, 2018

The negative aging imagination is at play in the culture. When we develop “reflexive dread” of aging, a phrase from Ashton Applewhite, we dread and revile the thought of getting older in any way. This dread is a reaction to an aging meta messages our culture indulges in aplenty—“whatever you do, don’t start aging!! It’s […]

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Age Tempered Living: choosing your changes

October 8, 2018

On Purpose and By Accident, We Change Our lives are tempered by our age. A baby does baby things. Kids think and act like kids. Mid-lifers have careers, raise kids or not, and do what they do. Those later on in life, like me, get to do the same. Or do we? How is your […]

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Eat Twinkies, But Only With Friends

August 28, 2018

Making space for the Good People Think of a person you know who “never got over” a bad event. Conversely think of those who somehow powered or muddled through big difficulties and declare they are the better for it. Why do bad things dent or even crush some and not others? This is the complex […]

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Emergence: wisdom shows up through the crucible moments

July 30, 2018

Aging is an activity you do, not something that happens to you. ~Thomas Moore The wisdom that comes with our later years does not just show up. It was forged, if we paid attention to our experiences, in our contact with life, especially when we had staying power as things were going wrong, against our wills […]

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First-to-go advice for couples: what’s your preference?

July 16, 2018

The setting: I am in the Manhattan office of a colleague I much admire for his leadership and stellar career, and we are having a rich conversation on aging, aging men in particular. He tells me a story of his friend who lost his wife of many years, and then suffered deeply and for an […]

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